Are We Too Judgmental?

Alhamdulillah...

It's been so long since the last article.
Happy Eid Al- Fitr I wish to all of you...

Today, I want to write about the challenge of an ex- convict.

Who's more cruel?

To be honest, rarely we seen nowadays that ex- convict can manage his life very well.

1. Whether he will return to the mud of his crime.
Or
2. He'll struggle to build a new life but stumble halfway through due to the prejudice from the surrounding.

Okay.
Now, I'll share a truth story 'bout an ex- convict that really close to me.
I'll tell you what I've learn and what we can do to change this viscous cycle of 'prejudice' that supposedly be changed by 'empathy'.

Ehheemmm...

Okay.

He is Mr. A.
He been released from the prison on May 2016.
Subjected to the crime of gold robbery.
Got 6 moths imprisonment and 2 stroke.

He has a wife and two daughter.
Whom juz 2 days of labor when he was arrested.
She had to depend completely to her mum (masa pantang) and had to work on shift- hour (till now).

Past history:
Had a bad reputation like Ah- long debt; and domestic abuse towards his old- wife.
2 times inhabited the prison at certain period (which I don't know exactly the duration).

But, superficially- I can say that he's really a good man who take a good care of his wife and love all of his daughter.
He has a really good social skills 'till we never thought that he has such (aforementioned) history.
Mix and hang around with us like has no problem at all.

And now.. 
We do know that he's an ex- convict.
Everyone around him treat him like a fifthly little man and the slightest mistake he did become so matter (Even when he won't visit his relative during diz hari raya).
People keep oppress him (and his family as well).
Every conversation is full of snide remarks that kill him from within.

Then, we keep repeating the same question,

Why he won't change?

It sounds like a joke to me.

Why not we give him time to adapt and gathered his own strength first?
Why we become so judgmental and put him at a bay?
Then, we asked- 

Why he won't change?

Really-
It sounds stupid when we keep questioning but not supporting.

Understand first, then you can judge...

Invisible tears are the hardest to wipe away- Megan Slagter

Cont... (The challenge of an ex- convict)- Solution